Disabled Son

Harjap welcomes everyone back from the break. He goes to the phones lines and a woman says her son is gets Disablity Allowance and in 2007 he got married. Is there a chance to call him over, the appeal failed twice. Harjap says they were always going to fail, as long as the son doesn’t work, there is no chance. Harjap says you should have asked before the wedding and now the poor wife is sitting there. The woman says someone gave us the wrong advice, some lawyer. I won’t name names but he did it by saying with a third-person. Harjap says no they don’t agree to third-person as you now now. The lawyers here don’t help, they put you in trouble. The woman says this has happened with us alot,
the son is 30 years old, he says he will make papers but if he makes these papers, he will get stuck won’t he. Harjap says yes, he will. He says he will somehow make slips for 6 months. Harjap says they look at everything, if a person works legally or not, if people could make slips
everyone would come over (you may here Harjap’s word repeat, it’s the feedback from the TV, the woman has here TV volume on). The woman says it is a really big problem, he has paid money and the date is set for December. Harjap says keep making dates. The woman says they keep saying
they will get slips for December and his wife will be allowed to come over. Harjap asks how long has he been getting the Disablity for? The woman says from the beginning. Harjap says then they will say how come he has started to work now when at the beginning he wasn’t. Do you think they will not check and think about this. The woman says I have been saying before, he has not worked up to the age of 30 since he was young, 16. Harjap says so they will say, where did you get the urge to work now. The woman says thats what I am now thinking and now we are stuck. Harjap says yes, you are stuck. The woman says so what will happen now with the chance. Harjap says this time again the wife will not be allowed to come. The woman says we got a bad lawyer. Harjap says the first thing is why did he apply when there was no chance. The woman says I told him from the start to go to a lawyer, a good one with a name, like yourself. Harjap says in the name of God. Harjap says they didn’t take my advice because I give the truth, I would have said there is no chance and that sounds bad to people. The woman says I agree with you fully. Harjap says people still say I speak rudely. I say if I take money of you and speak sweetly, doesn’t that matter. How that lawyer has put you in trouble, what will the wife be thinking, sitting there for a year and the women that got married afterwards will have reached before her. The woman says we will see what happens now and tell you the outcome but it seems like nothing. She says bye and thanks Harjap. Harjap thanks her for sharing her story openly in front of everyone.

He goes to the next caller but no one is there so he tells us some information. He says the main thing when you get married is that everyone knows that you have to show that you work or you don’t pick up social security and you can support yourself. It is not vital for you to work, there are other ways such as having a shop, showing your rental income or if you have a business in partnership where you can show your shares, theres lots of ways. If you think the government will pay your dinner for 30 years then for you then for you wife, the get your children married. The government will say the children are not ours, why should we do everything. Even your grandparents didn’t do this, your Uncles nowadays
only give £15, £20 and £20, nothing more, they even look to make sure they don’t give any extra, only one and the wife will keep nudging you to do so. If you think about the daughters, there is not one but many who have husband’s that can’t call them over and now in difficulty just sitting there whilst others are getting married. There are then divorce papers and cases, this is all our community, no one giving us a chance and giving a bad name to us. It is not just from one side, there are girls who have boyfriends who are illegal and run off after 2 days. The ones with a good name wait until they get permanent and then run off. There is a risk so before you marry your son or daughter, do the checks. The people from England will agree, the son could be a druggy, who has failed and hasn’t worked. The girl, you want one who is beautiful and has an MA. If she has these characteristics, why would she want to stay with your son after 2 years. You can’t look after your son, how will his wife. We do all these things and then pray to God. I agree God does everything but God also gave everyone a brain.